Last updated: May 29, 2020.
Love is something that we all ultimately want and deserve, but if you’re committed to finding it this year there are certain things you need to do to make it happen.
You can’t be ready for love to enter your life if you’re not actively going through the process required to open yourself up to it. Yes, there is necessary work that needs to be done before you’re ready to officially open yourself up to give and receive love.
Most of us assume we’re ready-made but if you don’t work through some of the emotional hurdles you’re harboring, you can easily push love away when it arrives and not even realize it.
With the start of a new year, there’s no better time to set yourself on the path to love in hopes of finding your “happily ever after.”
Here are some 6 tips to open yourself up to the possibility.
1) Let go of past relationship baggage
This is probably the biggest piece of advice to follow. If you want to receive love, you must let go of all past relationship baggage, regardless of how difficult it may be.
Carrying over all the hurt, pain, and mistrust from your previous relationship(s) into a new one, is almost guaranteed to end in disaster.
Before you even decide to start dating again, you need to ensure that you’ve unloaded all of your baggage permanently.
2) Spend time with/take advice from successful couples
Successful couples can advise you before you start to get serious about finding love, but, hopefully, they will also give you an honest picture of what it takes to make a relationship work.
Silently observe the couples around you and take notes for the future.
3) Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone
A lot of times women block their blessings when it comes to love because they are afraid to step outside their comfort zone.
Dating the same type of man repeatedly when none of the relationships have worked will only lead you to the same disappointing results. If you always ignore the shy, quiet guy or never give the corporate dude a second thought, try to give them a fighting chance this time around.
You may be surprised to find out that what’s outside your comfort zone is where your true lovelies.
4) Love yourself first
Before you can truly receive love from someone else, you have to love yourself first. Loving yourself means that you love, understand, and accept the person you are, flaws and all.
Leading with self-love makes you an even better person to be in a relationship with because you’ve done the introspection necessary to achieve overall happiness.
If there are things in your life that are keeping you from loving yourself, don’t be afraid to seek professional help to find out why.
5) Allow yourself to be vulnerable
When you are so used to putting up a wall to protect yourself from hurt, you may not realize that you’re also blocking yourself off from finding love as well. If you are truly ready to receive love, you have to be willing to be vulnerable.
Allow your potential mate to see the real you, let them into who you are and you’ll set the stage for a future healthy relationship. It’s scary at first, but there is no reward without risk.
6) Don’t compare yourself to others
As hard as we may try, at some point we’ve all compared ourselves to others; however, once you recognize unhealthy behavior you also can change it.
You may have friends, family, and co-workers who appear to have the perfect relationship and you compare yourself to them, while you feel depressed about the lack of love in your own life.